Early Childhood

Feeding Your Picky Eater

Dealing with picky eaters is a frustrating parenting challenge; however, picky eating is a normal developmental stage, especially for toddlers. 

Although it’s a typical childhood phase, parents are often concerned about what to feed a picky eater. They may worry that their child will lack important nutrients. And that’s understandable — the benefits of a healthy diet are endless. (To brush up on the basics of nutrition for children, read our article here.)

We know what kids should eat; it’s just not what they actually eat in real life. While you can have some amazing lunch ideas for picky eaters, your child may decide that he doesn’t like them!

Here are five tips to help you navigate the picky eater phase like a pro:

  1. Know your role.

    A parent’s job is to decide what to serve, when to serve, and where to serve. Your child’s job is to decide whether they’ll eat and how much they’ll eat.

    For example, you might choose to serve chicken, french fries, and broccoli for dinner at 6:00. Your child might decide to skip the chicken and fill up on french fries and broccoli.

    That’s okay. The goal is to take the pressure off yourself and your child. Stop worrying about what to feed a picky eater. Trust that your child won’t go hungry, and he can fill up on new food, trusted foods, or a combination - it’s his choice.

    (One important thing to keep in mind — while you can’t customize meals for each child, it’s important to include one food in each meal that you know your child has eaten before.)

  2. Keep healthy foods accessible.

    Stock your pantry and fridge with a colorful array of fruits, veggies, and whole grains. Healthy foods for picky eaters should be easily accessible so your little one can grab a healthy snack whenever hunger strikes.

  3. Avoid power struggles.

    Resist the urge to turn mealtime into a battle. Avoid forcing your child to eat certain foods, and avoid using food as a reward or punishment. The goal is to create a relaxed atmosphere where exploring new foods is encouraged but not mandatory. Aim for exposure, not pressure.

    Instead, try to make food fun by involving your child in the process. Let him help you pick fruits and vegetables, cook dinner, or even choose a new recipe to try.

  4. Lead by example.

    Your child learns most by observing, so do your best to be an open-minded eater and model healthy foods for picky eaters. That doesn’t mean you need to like all foods, but show your child that you’re willing to try new things.

  5. Don’t give up.

    If your child is totally disinterested by a new food, don’t give up! Try offering it a few days later in a different texture or recipe. Kids can take a while to acquire a taste for new foods, so keep offering those foods even if the kids didn’t like them in the past.

    If you’ve tried all the tips above, and you’re still concerned that your child isn’t receiving adequate nutrition, consider talking to your pediatrician or a dietitian. They might be able to assuage your concerns or provide valuable advice.

    And remember — picky eating is often a phase that children outgrow with time. You’ve got enough on your plate, so try not to worry too much. Stay patient and stay consistent, and your child will likely develop healthy habits over time.

Auditory Sensitivity

My child is sensitive to loud noises
(e.g., sirens, vacuum cleaner).

My child seeks out specific sounds or types of music and appears calmer when listening to them.

Tactile Sensitivity

My child is irritated by certain fabrics or tags in clothing.

My child seems indifferent to sensations that are usually painful or to extreme temperatures.

Visual Sensitivity

My child is sensitive to bright or flashing lights.

My child tends to avoid eye contact.

Taste/Smell Sensitivity

My child constantly prefers bland foods and rejects foods with strong flavors or spices.

My child seeks out strong or unusual smells, such as sniffing food or objects.

Proprioceptive Sensitivity

My child prefers tight hugs or being wrapped in a blanket.

My child is unaware of body position in space (e.g., often bumps into things).

Social Sensitivity

My child becomes anxious or distressed in crowded spaces.

My child is hesitant or resistant to climbing or balancing activities (e.g., jungle gyms, see-saws).

Movement Sensitivity

My child dislikes fast or spinning movements

Vestibular Sensitivity

My child becomes anxious or distressed in crowded spaces.

My child is hesitant or resistant to climbing or balancing activities (e.g., jungle gyms, see-saws).

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Your Child’s Score is

  • 0-15

    Low Sensory Sensitivity

  • 16-30

    Moderate Sensory Sensitivity

  • 31-45

    High Sensory Sensitivity

  • 46-60

    Very High Sensory Sensitivity

0-15: Low Sensory Sensitivity

  • Interpretation: Your child exhibits low levels of sensory sensitivity, usually falling within the typical developmental range.
  • Recommendation: Generally not  a cause for concern. If you have specific worries or notice a sudden change in behavior, consult a healthcare professional for a comprehensive evaluation.
  • 0-15

    Low Sensory Sensitivity

  • 16-30

    Moderate Sensory Sensitivity

  • 31-45

    High Sensory Sensitivity

  • 46-60

    Very High Sensory Sensitivity

16-30: Moderate Sensory Sensitivity

  • Interpretation: Your child displays moderate sensory sensitivity, which may warrant intervention.
  • Recommendation: Consider sensory-friendly activities, sensory sensitive toys, or sensory sensitive clothing like noise-canceling headphones and weighted blankets to improve comfort. If symptoms persist, consult health care professionals.
  • 0-15

    Low Sensory Sensitivity

  • 16-30

    Moderate Sensory Sensitivity

  • 31-45

    High Sensory Sensitivity

  • 46-60

    Very High Sensory Sensitivity

31-45: High Sensory Sensitivity

  • Interpretation: Your child has higher than average sensory sensitivity that may interfere with daily functioning.
  • Recommendation: Seek a detailed evaluation by health care professionals for sensory integration therapy options and potential environmental modifications.
  • 0-15

    Low Sensory Sensitivity

  • 16-30

    Moderate Sensory Sensitivity

  • 31-45

    High Sensory Sensitivity

  • 46-60

    Very High Sensory Sensitivity

46-60: Very High Sensory Sensitivity

  • Interpretation: Your child demonstrates high levels of sensory sensitivity that could significantly interfere with daily life.
  • Recommendation: If your child displays this level of sensory sensitivity, it’s highly recommended that you consult with a health care professional for a multi-disciplinary assessment. You will probably be directed towards early intervention programs and specialized support.

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